How long are you willing to wait before you cut bait and move on?
First, you might like this article: The issues here are space and validation.
I’ve had relationships that I have tried hard to keep in “stasis”.
I’m not looking for that and when that starts coming up, I scale my presence in her life back considerably – I don’t want things to turn into a relationship and therefore I withdraw. I’ve pushed her away and now I’m going to lose her. my goal being that I’d like to return to “stasis” – that perfect sweet spot of comfortable company and sexual satisfaction without having to tie myself down to any relationship.
Then, inevitably, the girl starts to get upset, frustrated, confused, etc. My point here: My goal is to maintain the stage before exclusivity and relationship happens. I’m clear on this and it’s practical for where I am in my life right now.
There was a moment when he talked about us being married, but he joked that I should be the one to get him the ring.