They would carry on, yelling, laughing, but when I would enter the room, they would go quiet as I’m a lady and I demand a certain kind of behavior.
We then lived with another two guys, this time in their early 30s, one of whom was gay but had a ‘beard’ as being openly gay is still taboo in this country (but that is a topic for another time) and one who had no social skills around women whatsoever. The problem is that women and men are not encouraged—on a large scale—to live together as friends in a share house or even as partners before marriage.
One thing I have wanted to write about for a while in this column is the view of sex and dating in Turkey.
I have watched (mostly) foreign and (some) Turkish friends grapple with dating and all its highs and—more often—lows, and have become endlessly fascinated with the subject.
A Turkish male friend once told me that one night stands are not really a thing, and especially not for women (no big surprise there).
Another Turkish male friend told me that although men and women can be friends, growing up in large mixed-sex friendships groups is a lot less common than in other parts of the world.
He justified watching and sharing the video by saying this: “This is not private but public, because he was not with his wife. We cannot view adulterers as victims.” The question begets why the Turkish government is so obsessed with sex.