This is a key difference and it’s why you must be of the alpha type to have any sort of success in BPD relationships.
In fact, I know plenty of BPD women who treat their boyfriends like kings because of this truth.
It’s why BPD relationships tend to have a Honeymoon Period. Unfortunately, this good-natured character can cause you to develop this White Knight belief system. But, what you have done is fallen in love with their potential. But, falling in love with someone’s potential is a common mistake I see in BPD relationships. You’re lost in the future instead of accepting your partner as is in the present.
You can’t be a hero in the present, and this frustrates you. You’re seeking an end-result that exists in your imaginary future.
1) A change of mindsets is absolutely required when you’re dating someone with BPD or Bipolar.
2) Society has rapidly changed in the past 5 years.
However, better mindsets lead you to better relationships. Am I saying that your BPD relationship will pull a 180 and be healthy forever? You’ll develop a better sense of power and direction. And, if you happen to have BPD yourself, you can make great strides in your own life by following my advice. The world today is much different than it was 10 years ago or so.