Arrow and other bad debt investors rely on the fact that 90% or so of people are not sure about how to deal with a debt collection lawsuit.
People get served a summons and complaint on an unpaid credit card bill and tend to put their head in the sand.
I had already informed my son and my husband that I would NOT be meeting any more ‘girls’ in my son’s life.
He is currently separated and going through a messy custody battle with his ex.
That reaction fuels them, as it is testament to their power and control. Heck no, because if you realize you are no more than a puppet to them, then you might leave and the puppet master would be without his/her primary source of fuel, fun, and satisfaction. To keep the game going, there has to be “deniability” and they put the onus on you–you really are too sensitive, you didn’t understand, you can’t take a joke, you really were flirting, etc. In the end the only conclusion is that you really are a horrible, incompetent, neurotic, fill-in-the-blank, person. If you live in the country, you’ve probably learned not to put food out for wild animals, because they’ll just keep coming back for more. Provide him or her with fuel, and the sociopath will keep coming back for more. Don’t Make the Sociopath Addicted to Your Emotional Pain. contact, no contact, no contact, contact etc.–with the sociopath, aren’t we training the sociopath to be addicted to us as a source of something that fuels them–emotional pain? Perhaps I’m over simplifying it, but there may be the only two ways out once a sociopath considers you a great source of fuel for them.