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It’s believing that you could “lose something” or that something could happen that would create a “lack of something” in your life.
He said he worships the ground I walk on and should never change because I was perfect in the relationship and will go far in life whereas he feels like he has nothing to offer since he is grieving and stuck in a job he doesn’t like. I was dating a woman who really was a great girlfriend, but I was totally not in the right place to be in a relationship. when men don’t feel like they’re “winning” at life or that life is good, they want to shrink away and withdraw from the world.
He suggested we stay friends but I told him that would be too hard on me and he said I can contact him anytime. Men want to mentally work out whatever is bothering them, solve it, and then they’ll re-emerge, ready to conquer the world.
That feeling does not feel good, and the source of it is how you’re thinking about your situation, it’s your perspective. You could have 100,000 songs on your i Pod, but if you’re not playing any of the songs… In that same way, your relationship is exactly what it is in the moment that you’re with that person, experiencing that person and interacting with that person. you experience it in the moment you’re with the person.