It’s true that softball isn’t the only sport out there. When you line up the traditional Title 9 sports, softball and baseball are the most similar team sports for men and women.
But in my humble opinion as a man, you should totally date a softball player. Well I’m glad you did, because I’m here to tell you why.
Being an athlete in general really brings you down a notch.
It’s where I looked when I was feeling isolated, and where I’ve found an amazing family and support system. 55 teams of queers playing their hearts out every weekend for girls in bikinis and bears with travel trailers. They play it growing up, they watch it after they’re too old to play it. The first opportunity we had to play something that looked like baseball was in Junior High or High School, when we signed up in droves for the softball team, eschewing the gender norms that pigeonholed many of us as “freaks” and “she-men,” to put on socks and stirrups like the boys.
But even outside the gay leagues, softball plays an important part in lesbian culture. No briefs like volleyball, or skirts like field hockey.
Because things that would indicate lesbianism in the outside world (like ass grabbing) don’t necessarily work the same on the field, it’s always safest to ask.