She described him to other friends as 'not very exciting'. It was like an epiphany.' Most psychologists would say that was unusual.
The reality is that when friends become lovers the shift in their emotions is usually gradual.
It's difficult for me to define why it switched focus that day of the wedding, but, looking back, I think Simon was starting to get under my skin.
I'd go on dates with other men and find myself thinking about him, and once I joked that we should get together.
You can—and should—delight in the heart-pounding giddiness of love. But if you want the whole thing to last, then you need friendship, too. Think of your own good friends, the ones who have your back, the ones who are there for you, no matter what.
The ones you can tell anything to and the ones you would do anything for. Remembering times your friend was there for you brings tears to your eyes. A key here is the word “mutual.” Friendship has to be a two-way street.
Because long-standing friends have had plenty of time to develop this bond, they already know they have plenty in common.