Your attitude should be that any guy would be lucky to be with you—and if you’re too focused on pleasing them or wondering what you do wrong, you aren’t going to attract a healthy partner.
Whether you’re a gregarious lady who loves the thrill of going out and meeting new people or an introvert who’d rather do a Netflix night in than face the unknown of another date—it’s pretty much a fact that every single woman needs a vacation from the dating game every once in awhile.
Not only will a dating detox save you time and energy in the process of finding someone, and make you a more effective dater (whether you’re looking for fun, sex, or a relationship), but it will also keep your outlook fresh, your perspective clear, and your attitude positive.
But if you want to find someone to get serious with, or even just get to know, it’s crucial to maintain a positive outlook about your potential to do so.
It’s not that you should be in denial—it’s that you need to approach a relationship the same way you’d approach a job you really want: You’re going to keep going until you get it.
If you’re just going on dates because you’re single and feel like that’s what single people do, you need to reevaluate.